Accept the situation? Why, what is the point. I’m irritated, angry, upset, happy, sad, feeling emotionally out of place. I just can’t put them in order, or as to why I am feeling the way I am.
Tolerating situations as they come. Sometimes our reaction can be the one thing that destroys the current situation. How do we cope with accepting what is? How do we save our selves from sabotaging what we have built?
Struggling with those feelings of not being able to let go of what is, and what was. We can only understand what comes as it comes. You don’t have to tolerate the toxic relationships that you seem to think you do. Even if its those toxic relationships are with family members.
In the drop of a hat your emotions change. Your body has all these sensations that you are trying to understand, and well them you. Do not let those take you over. Pull you down, and destroy you.
What is emotion regulation, or emotional self- regulation and why do I have to bother with it? Well, unfortunately, we all have to bother or deal with it. Emotions are apart of our everyday life. Just because you transitioned, doesn’t mean your still not emotionally connected to the feeling deep aspect. As childeern, we learn from our parents, family, and environment of what is socially acceptable of emotions and the emotional regulations we are to have and use. But, we often forget that without emotions we’d just wander around with no enjoyment, happiness, love, admiration, pride, sad, angry, all those things that make us well, us.
Emotional regulation is ” Emotional self-regulation or emotion regulation is the ability to respond to the ongoing demands of experience with the range of emotions in a manner that is socially tolerable and sufficiently flexible to permit spontaneous reactions as well as the ability to delay spontaneous reactions as needed. Wikipedia“https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotional_self-regulation
Well, I am here to help you understand a little bit more of that inner self emotions and maybe even help you to identify those that you cannot quite put your finger on. I’m no expert and I don’t claim to be but, maybe I can give a little insight. Remember that the second emotion is always what you’re truly feeling.
Lets take a moment and start with the mindfulness aspect. If we are not mindful of ourselves and the way that we may be projecting to others, so then, we cannot begin to be effective in our daily lives.
When it comes to our emtions. We don’t always see the emtional reaction until it’s too late. it could be to situation, a conversation, or just in general something that is going on. We need to remember not everything needs a reaction. sometimes the best reaction is none at all.
Yea, we may not get to put in the last word but, it may not always be the most effective way. So, remember to take time for you. If we are able to keep our reactions under wraps, It can make your life a little bit easier. Understanding why as we need to regulate these things, is to keep a level head, and not let the emotion take over and cause physical, mental or emotional damage to yourself or others.
Emotional regulation is all about, just taking those emotions and having a hold on your emotions taking responsibility for those emotions that can be harmful to you. You cannot keep going around blaming things on others when it is the accountability of YOUR emotions that will help make those things in life easier or harder. You decide. Being a man doesn’t mean not having emotions but understanding and being healthy when it comes to responding, accountability and mindfulness of yourself and others. but most importantly yourself.
As we continue on our path, we often can become toxic to ourselves and others. if we don’t start at the start line, then we can’t finish what we start. You cannot cut corners, or sidelines when it comes to emotions, feelings, or self-accountability.
Ever hear of a comment “stinking thinking”? It’s often used in AA (alcohol anonymous). It can often just be referred to as letting those little intrusive, pain in the side, just outta nowhere thoughts. Yes, little, they are not as big as you may think, or they seem huge. I know they need to just go away. Easier said than done. This I understand all too well.
Remember it gets easier and no matter what enjoy the ride. Take it day by day and even if you can’t do that. Take it minute by minute, or hour by hour. Just be kind to yourself.